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4 Keys to Healthy Family Dynamics. Part 2: Love

What’s Love Got to do with it?

LOVE:  Husbands love your wife V19 Take a quick moment to read Eph 5:25-27.

This is by far my favorite family dynamic.  This is the one that comes most naturally for me and the one that I really, really enjoy receiving.  Now, giving love, especially by way of the example of Jesus is sometimes very difficult.

We are called to love in such a way that brings out the very best in our wives.  We love them so much so as to present them as without spot or blemish.  They are gifts entrusted to us by God to be returned without spot, or without being damaged or broken.  WOW!  That means, husbands, how we treat, talk to or talk about our wives matters deeply not only to healthy dynamics for our family in the hear and now, but for the future of family and for eternity. 

We are called to love them and to “not be harsh with them.”  To not be overbearing or quick tempered – to not treat them as second classed citizens in their own homes.  Proverbs says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” It causes division and distance.  Our arguments/fights are usually ignited (or fueled) by a harsh word. Little do we realize the impact on our relationships of our words spoken in the heat of the moment.

Remember what Paul told the Corinthian church in regards to love… Love is patient, kind, keeps no record of wrongs…  I don’t know about you but keeping no records of wrong is a pretty mature quality, one that I do not always posses unfortunately.

Lastly, and most importantly, this passage is a reminder that we are called to love sacrificially, like Jesus, who laid down his life for the church (His Bride).  This is not only a romantic gesture of epic proportions, i.e. “I would jump in front of a moving train for you, babe.” but more practically it is a daily sacrificial love.  It is a love that cares deeply for the well-being of your spouse in the small every day kinds of things.

Husbands, this week think of a way you can show your wife sacrificial love – show her that she is more important then your job and hobby and that you are excited to see her and spend time with her.  Ask yourself the question, “what have I “given up” to be connected to her?”

What’s love got to do with it?  Leave a comment and let us know what you think.


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